Chinese New Year is an occasion we Chinese look forward to. Especially the food for some (Ba Gua! Pineapple tarts!), public holiday for others, financial assistance from the Angbaos collection for the children and un-weds, and for traditioned-conservators: Reunion dinner.
Personally, I dread CNY because of having to meet relatives who came to visit and entertaining them. Everytime I receive an Angbao, I have to smile and all those things. NOT THAT I'm rich or rude but largly due to my anti-social nature I guess. Yes, don't remind me of my 2009 resolutions. I have forget about this on the list. But hey, it takes time to change.
So I had a plan. I left for Bintan Lagoon Resort. E
had to work during Chu Er, which explains why we had to foregone reunion dinner to arrive at Bintan and came back on Chu Yi evening. How was it you must be wondering. It was ok. I managed to find a spot to swim in the family-congested pool, read with the sea breeze and pitcher of fruit juice, walked along the beach and have plenty of rest.
Only disappointing thing about the getaway was there was no sun for sun-tanning. South East monsoon period. That's why.
I had my postponed reunion dinner that very night I arrived mainland. Made alot of noise. Was looking forward to late-night meeting with the gang which was eventually cancelled due to some commitment-indifference plus KTV (our initial plan) was too expensive.
Met KS, Ivan, Clara and LW this evening for dinner and coffee. During coffee, I felt aloaf because they were engaged in topics which wasn't interesting to me. Clara felt likwise. I changed the topic to having Ivan plan for our next outing. Turns out they "appealed" the discussion for our overseas trip (which was initiated last year).
Ivan responded he visioned himself teaching neuro-linguistic program. Hell what I though bad. Remained totally quiet because he mentioned whatever he's studying is to obtain a cert and thereafter move on for the course. I thought what a messy life-decision he's gotten himself into.
Then we discussed about holiday which I just couldn't understand why is it so difficult for us to behave and be more open-minded like adults and enjoy ourselves with a relaxing trip, outdoor games or the least improvised activities. I know, Ivan and KS ain't interested in beach-scene. Ivan's finance's abit tight due to his heavy investment into courses and books which he has interest and pursues.
I understand but with a limited budget, the enjoyment level wouldn't be there. If they don't want overseas trip. Fine. Outings can still be very fun if we have improvision in our activities. Like self-help games.
On my way home, I then realised how inconsiderate I was. And guilt filled my heart as I understood it is indifference which made our friendship interesting. Else, it'd be monotonous. And its a shame I was selfish thinking others would enjoy what I perceived of activities which would appeal to them.
Best solution. Don't think too deep coz it's not healthy. Live and let live.
Personally, I dread CNY because of having to meet relatives who came to visit and entertaining them. Everytime I receive an Angbao, I have to smile and all those things. NOT THAT I'm rich or rude but largly due to my anti-social nature I guess. Yes, don't remind me of my 2009 resolutions. I have forget about this on the list. But hey, it takes time to change.
So I had a plan. I left for Bintan Lagoon Resort. E
had to work during Chu Er, which explains why we had to foregone reunion dinner to arrive at Bintan and came back on Chu Yi evening. How was it you must be wondering. It was ok. I managed to find a spot to swim in the family-congested pool, read with the sea breeze and pitcher of fruit juice, walked along the beach and have plenty of rest.
Only disappointing thing about the getaway was there was no sun for sun-tanning. South East monsoon period. That's why.
I had my postponed reunion dinner that very night I arrived mainland. Made alot of noise. Was looking forward to late-night meeting with the gang which was eventually cancelled due to some commitment-indifference plus KTV (our initial plan) was too expensive.Met KS, Ivan, Clara and LW this evening for dinner and coffee. During coffee, I felt aloaf because they were engaged in topics which wasn't interesting to me. Clara felt likwise. I changed the topic to having Ivan plan for our next outing. Turns out they "appealed" the discussion for our overseas trip (which was initiated last year).
Ivan responded he visioned himself teaching neuro-linguistic program. Hell what I though bad. Remained totally quiet because he mentioned whatever he's studying is to obtain a cert and thereafter move on for the course. I thought what a messy life-decision he's gotten himself into.
Then we discussed about holiday which I just couldn't understand why is it so difficult for us to behave and be more open-minded like adults and enjoy ourselves with a relaxing trip, outdoor games or the least improvised activities. I know, Ivan and KS ain't interested in beach-scene. Ivan's finance's abit tight due to his heavy investment into courses and books which he has interest and pursues.
I understand but with a limited budget, the enjoyment level wouldn't be there. If they don't want overseas trip. Fine. Outings can still be very fun if we have improvision in our activities. Like self-help games.
On my way home, I then realised how inconsiderate I was. And guilt filled my heart as I understood it is indifference which made our friendship interesting. Else, it'd be monotonous. And its a shame I was selfish thinking others would enjoy what I perceived of activities which would appeal to them.
Best solution. Don't think too deep coz it's not healthy. Live and let live.
